To start, I am a male who identifies a straight man and is generally masculine. I am 99% sure I am straight and I have never been into a crisis regarding my gender identity. I can still appreciate a well-groomed man but I wouldn’t consider that as being attracted. Also, I know I’m not sexually attracted to males since I feel repulsed when I see male private parts or sexy pictures. However, I don’t think that I’m a completely masculine traditional guy when it comes to expressing myself. I don’t mind if I don’t come off as manly or if I don’t coincide with the general stereotype of how a manly guy acts. My friends have commented on me saying that I’m “maarte” and say that I’m don’t act like a gentleman at all. I do admit that and I don’t want to be too conscious about sticking to the traditional man look.
I view sexuality as an important thing people have to discover about themselves. It’s truly subjective and people can be attracted in different ways to different types of people. You don’t have to impose a certain template on what they can or cannot prefer. I don’t mind people having genders of different kinds as long as they don’t harass others too. Sex, on the other hand, is objective with it being biological. For me, the definition of sex shouldn’t be changed because it’s medical and scientific. Its definition cannot simply be contested. It is not as simple as gender identity which is purely up to the person. You can now change your sex however by going through an actual physical sex change and becoming a transgender but that won’t change everything. I respect the new sex of transgenders but still there are a few boundaries that shouldn’t be changed like transgender females in sports who would of course always win against people who were born as females.
As a straight person, I feel lucky I don’t have to face discrimination regarding my sex and sexuality. My views don’t affect my self-expression as much as views on the matter would affect LGBTQs. People don’t harass or attack me regarding my views since I’m not an LGBTQ, to begin with. In no way do I feel hindered to express my sexuality and I’m thankful for that. It is sad however that other people in our community still need to voice out their views and sexuality to also help fight for themselves and help defend their identity. Their views in a way allow them to express themselves.
For sex the act, I have no problem with adults doing it often or with non-romantic partners. I’m just worried about people who make it too easy to have sex with them. They can be easily taken advantage of and are at so much risk. I wish they would take a few extra steps to ensure their safety like getting to see an ID of the person just in case something bad might happen. For minors, however, I don’t think they should have sex yet. A few years doesn’t make much difference but it’s crazy what trouble they could get others into if they lied about their age. It’s a crime.
Personally, I choose not to have sex yet because I in no way want to take any risk at all of getting someone pregnant. I have plans, I don’t like babies and I don’t have money for one. That’s basically it. The only person I’d have sex with is my girlfriend and her worst nightmare is also getting pregnant. We’ve talked about it and maybe we might start having sex when we’re a bit older in law school or medical school since we’ll only have a few more years to go and sex might be our key to survival with so much stress 😀
Understanding the Self 