Life’s Drama

I believe that the looking-glass self and dramaturgical model have been applicable for so long now with humans being social creatures. Different civilizations, from early tribes, have truly valued the views and opinions of others which is why humans have always tried to control their impression on others. Centuries ago, families were crazy about their place in society, about not bringing shame to their name, and actually, some are until now. Contrived performances can be seen at the workplace, in politics, and online. This is not always wrong, however. Sometimes we need to adjust to maintain order in a situation. But I’m glad that, recently, the idea of acting naturally and being yourself is now being promoted more.

I personally like people who don’t overthink their social image or aren’t too worried about what others think of them. I worry when people I know try to use social media as their front stage and post pictures that change their appearance. Even worse is when they post things that I know aren’t true to themselves. This is why I don’t follow celebrities who promote the idea of looking good for clout or getting attention because I think it has bad effects on others. That culture has led others to buy overpriced branded items like new iPhones even when there are other more important things they should be spending on. It has hurt the self-confidence and self-image of millions, making them think that they should be like famous people online.

Reminded of that phenomenon, I avoid being contrived and try to go beyond the looking-glass self. I would never want to change my identity just to fit in or look cool. Commonly, I just manage my impressions on others to make sure that I do not offend or disrespect anyone. I do not act to make them think I am someone I am not. I also do not think much about what others think about me. Many people have said negative things about me in the past but I always remind myself of who I truly am. The opinions of those who do not know me at all should not matter.